Thursday, July 05, 2012

Bissell Big Green

I just have to share with you my thoughts about the BISSELL Big Green Deep Cleaning Machine Professional Grade Carpet Cleaner, 86T3 I bought this as a "gift" to myself. I hated the process of renting a rug cleaner. Go to the store hope they have one available, lug it into my car, drive home, lug it out of my car and into the house. Then I only had 24 hours to clean carpets and many times over exerted myself trying to get everything done in that time frame. Then many times waking up the next day to find the carpets were still damp. Going back over a few spots and repeating the process of lugging the thing back into the car and back to the store. Then shortly after cleaning my carpets, someone would spill something on them or track something in and I would do my best to clean it up, but waited to repeat the process of cleaning all the carpets again.

 So I started thinking about purchasing one for myself. I really could not justify spending all that money, but I hated having only 24 hours with the rental and honestly moving several rooms of furniture was becoming a bit much. The last time I went to rent a cleaner, I could not find my usual brand available. I went to Lowe's and they offered the Bissell Big Green. Never having used one I was skeptical. I lugged it into my car and went back home.

I found many things I liked about this machine. For one, I did not have to carry the container of clean water and try to pour it into a long skinny opening. I always ended up with a line of water on the carpet that had to be sucked up with the cleaner. It was easy to maneuver and it cleaned in both a forward and backward direction. The cleaning solution comes in several formulas and seems to take less than the other machine. My carpets seem cleaner, are soft after cleaning and I can work on one room at a time at my own convenience. The other great thing is that they are dry in just a couple hours and I can move furniture back where I cleaned. No more having my house in a maze till the carpets dry. If you ever thought of purchasing a carpet cleaner, I highly recommend this one.

Friday, June 29, 2012

what can target parents do about parental alienation?

What can a target parent do about parental alienation? That is the sixty-four thousand dollar question. I wish I had the perfect answer to not only solve, prevent and solve parental alienation, but I do not. I can only write about my experiences, what worked and use ideas from other parents as well as a guide for you.

What has worked for me and others may not work for you. Each case is different, but each case does involve a selfish parent who is unable to let go of the anger and hurt of the failed relationship and uses the children as collateral to control. 

I suggest keeping a diary of some sort. I made a blog that is private and documented my feelings, wrote letters to my son and scanned documentation as proof. This allowed me to separate my documents and print them for my attorney. I also kept a large calendar that I wrote visitations, times and ease or difficulty of transfer on. I set up with my cell phone company to track calls made or received by my son as well as my ex. This comes in handy when claims are made that the target parent does not call or claims are made that your child calls more than what is documented. I made copies of all doctor visits, as claims were made I did not allow my son to visit the doctor. My insurance company also has a website that allows me to document this. I also used a tracking program for emails, since my ex loved to state that he did not receive an email. This program stated when it was sent, when it was read and if it was forwarded by the recipient.  This was helpful when my ex would claim he did not receive an email, but my program showed not only that he read it several times, but he forwarded it. Not only can these documents be helpful to your attorney, you should also share these with your counselor. 

If counseling is ordered by the courts I suggest complying with that. Your ex and child/children may attend one or two sessions and if you are lucky---- more. I suggest continuing with counseling even if the other participants ordered refuse to attend. I first learned about parental alienation because of counseling and was given suggestions of resources to read. 

As a target parent you are going to have to get a thick skin, turn the other cheek, smile when it is painful and be the incredible parent, even when it is most difficult. If you have visitation and are refused, you still need to not only make the effort, but be there at the time stated and not late. As we all know, traffic can be unpredictable and while perhaps acceptable for your job that you will be late due to the unforeseen traffic----as a target parent this is unacceptable and will be used against you. I made several 6 hour round trips knowing my son would not be there when I arrived, but I made those trips and had the proof I made them. If your child is into sports or other activities, you need to attend. While I understand the alienating most likely does not care about these activities, you as a target parent are being held to a higher standard. Being late for visitation or an event, failing to attend an event no matter the excuse will be greatly exaggerated to the courts and your child/children. These exaggerations will substantiate the claims of the alienating parent. 

Do not get into a discussion with your child/children about alienation. You are not going to win this argument. They do not understand what is being done to them and really do not care. Their sense of reasoning is not developed either. If you have visitation, you need to enjoy time with your child without conflict. Do not become overwhelmed with grief that does not allow you to enjoy time with your child. Tell them you love them do things they like and swallow your pride, grief and anger. Call them after a visit to let them know you enjoyed the visit and look forward to the next time. Learn how to text message, set up a facebook page or other social media as a way to connect. Ignore most of what you see if accepted as a friend on these social pages and don’t like or comment on everything your child/children post. Myspace allows you to see if personal messages are read. I do not think facebook allows that. Realize they may not respond to a message either. Do not inundate them with messages either. 

Have empathy for your child. You are asking your friends, co-workers and others to understand and to be compassionate towards you; you need to be the same towards your child/children. You didn’t ask for this and neither did your children/child. Understand that for as much pain, confusion and mixed messages you receive your child/children are receiving the same. 

Read, research, and understand as much as you can about parental alienation. Read blogs, articles, citations and books about parental alienation. Talk to others, join support groups, web boards and more. Communicate! Let go of anger, it holds you down and allows others to control you. Get healthy, do exercise which is a great anger release. Eat healthier; your body will be happier.  This is a new beginning, you did not ask for this so choose wisely. 

Have faith and don’t give up hope. In my case the alienating parent, promised things he could not deliver on. He stated he would always be there to talk to our son. Sure he was there when this case was in the courts, but once he “won” -----things changed. I will never forget being called about 1 in the morning. Needless to say, this was an inconvenient time for me, but it was my son calling. I answered very groggy that morning and our son just wanted to talk. The fact that I listened and did not respond with some glib response meant the world to him. From that point, things started to change for the better. It was not easy. Over time, we have reconnected and I think the relationship is strong. It is NOT the same as it was, never will be.

I have missed several milestones in my son’s life, but at the same time experienced many. I can either be angry about those missed milestones or be happy that I have him back in my life. I could be wrong, but I think many concentrate on what is being missed instead of what is being made new. Letting go of anger is liberating. I think one has to do this. Found a few great quotes:  If we open a quarrel between past and present, we shall find that we have lost the future.”  

We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.”


Lastly take time for yourself. Find humor, have a laugh----- get that massage you have wanted, read that book you have placed on the shelf, join the gym, buy that album of the band you like, sing karaoke, take that hike, rent that mountain cabin, drink that bottle of fine wine you have saved for that special occasion, eat a box of fine chocolates…something YOU want and something for YOU! 

We can not stop, prevent or control what the alienating parent is doing. The ONLY thing we can control is how we as target parents react.  Until the courts and judges recognize parental alienation, the only control we have is ourselves.

If you follow my facebook page, you will see that I mix it up with serious posts, quotes, and stories and I also post silly pictures. Every once in awhile we need a reason to laugh. Please allow yourself to laugh. 

Some great resources to start your education about parental alienation:

Thursday, June 07, 2012

Take a break, have a laugh






A picture of shoes and an odd looking cat? WTH? What does this have to do with parental alienation? Absolutely nothing! That's the beauty of it.

I have found that if we do not take time for ourselves to heal, to live and to grow, we lose sight of the small things and most obscure things that allow us to laugh. This was the picture I picked that I just thought was something that could allow us to laugh.

It is important to laugh, at funny pictures, sayings and ourselves. Please take care of yourself and laugh.

Tuesday, May 01, 2012

Knowledge is power


I am a strong believer in that knowledge is power. While I am far from an expert on parental alienation, I feel that I have gained quite a bit of knowledge about the subject and I continue my learning even today. 

When I first became aware of parental alienation, I did not know what the word meant. I remember sitting in the office of a child psychologist when I first heard that term.  You may ask how I knew to go there.  I didn’t at first. What I did know was I always had a loving and close relationship with my son and that relationship changed basically overnight. My son was visiting his father during the summer and the plan that was hatched was one where I would be eliminated as a parent to my son.   This was not a pre-teen trying to establish a sense of self identity either. I was completely cut off from contact. When I was finally able to appear in court a few weeks later, receiving notification after the court date, I would was overwhelmed by allegations made and the number of people appearing in court as possible witnesses. I recognized my ex’s brother and wife, but I had not seen nor heard from them since our divorce.  The other people I saw, I had no clue who they were, but they occupied two rows in the court room.  I remember sitting towards the back of the court room with my attorney feeling very alone and feeling a sinking feeling in the pit of the stomach.  He told me not to worry about the people there if I did not even know their names. His confidence far exceeded mine that day. 

I achieved a victory that day in court by having the court order the return of my son to my home and for further court proceedings to take place in my county.  Little did I know that this victory was the start of a living hell.  If I thought the three weeks prior to the victory court proceeding were distressing to me because I could not contact by phone, the numbers were changed to private numbers.  Trips to the home were futile as well; it always appeared as no one was home. I was ill prepared for what would lay ahead.  

I spoke to a family friend who did some counseling and asked if I should see a counselor and if they had suggestions.  They gave me a few names and I picked one out and made the appointment.  As I sat in his office talking my son sat in the waiting room, most likely texting his dad about the event.  The counselor wanted to talk to both of us, but separately. He asked if I would mind having my ex attend some sessions and I agreed. I gave him the contact info so he could speak with my ex. Needless to say; my ex was against this quackery. It was during my visits with the child psychologist that I learned the words parental alienation. He suggested reading some books as well.  The sessions with this child psychologist ended soon afterwards due to my ex petitioning the court claiming I was brainwashing my son.  While I am guessing my ex was hoping that no counseling would ever take place again, it was ordered but he and his attorney got to pick the counselor this time. We attended perhaps four sessions and then my ex refused to attend. 

Over the years I have read numerous books, reread portions of those books, read numerous blogs about parental alienation, and read numerous writings about it as well. I have communicated with parents experiencing parental alienation. I also have listened more intently to other parents of divorce speak about their ex’s whom do not believe in such a thing, think it is hogwash and vehemently hate their ex and do not want them to be any part of their children’s lives. I have formed my own opinions, whether right or wrong, but feel most of the motivation behind parental alienation is a combination of some form of a mental and or personality disorder and an irrefutable need to have power over the lives of those they have a relationship with. This control is not of the form of some friendly advice or help, but of the type of my way or the highway. They are never wrong, you are. They know how to do things correctly, you do not.  The several examples of the divorced parents that I have listened to that exhibit these rigid stands against their ex also are controlling, demanding and inflexible.  They almost seem to take joy and pride in ridiculing their ex and explaining why the children hate the other parent. They also find ways to voice their opinion without provocation into a conversation.

While the majority of cases of parental alienation consist of one parent campaigning against the other parent and getting the children to align with them, realize other relatives can also do this such as grandparents, aunts and uncles. The severity of the alienation varies from case to case as well. Reversing alienation can be done, as I am testament to this. There was no plan or one method that I used. What worked for me may very well not work for you. This is where I believe that reading everything you can get your hands on is helpful. I also think revisiting the books and articles is helpful as well. The information I gained from a book read seven years ago was great, but I have noticed when I reread the book I gained new knowledge and perspective. 

I would like to offer a few suggestions of books. My wish is that if you have not read any of them, perhaps you will consider reading a few and you will gain some knowledge and insight as well. These are just a few books, there are many,many more to be found.





Wednesday, April 18, 2012

"A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."


It is difficult to imagine that a child could hate a parent for no apparent reason or for reasons that are ambiguous.  It is as difficult as well to imagine a child who once shared a deep bond with a parent or whom looked forward to visits with the other parent, suddenly profess a deep disgust to such parent.  Unfortunately this happens in many complicated divorce/custody cases.  I am mainly speaking about the control of power that one parent exhibits during these proceedings and that said parent who constantly uses the children as a bargaining tool. 

Custodial parents tend to be the ones who wield this power, but this is trend is changing. Custodial parents tend to spend the majority of the time with the children and therefore have more influence of the children.  While a custodial parent may have more time with the children, this does not mean that they are inherently campaigning against the non custodial parent. 

Instead of concentrating on who is the custodial/non custodial parent…I think the parents should concentrate on being just a parent.  Parenting means to provide support for your child, housing, food and clothing. (I am not inadvertently referring to child support).  Parenting also means supporting your child by attending school functions, helping your child learn, listening to your child and disciplining your child when warranted. As a parent you have to accept your child for who they are…remembering they are half of you and half of the other parent. These qualities were something you found interesting, until the divorce and now they are atrocious. Your child is a combination of both your best and worse traits. 

Recognize that either parent, custodial or not, influence the child’s thinking and behaviors. Take a mindful effort not to speak unconstructively about the other parent.  Keep your conversations private and attempt not to unconsciously present your feelings to your child.  You may be very well having a private conversation with a friend after your children may be asleep, but they may very well overhear your complaints.  Please keep your grievances and conversations away from your children.  Hire a babysitter and meet for a cup of coffee to discuss your feelings. Seek a counselor who will listen and offer suggestions, although you may not appreciate it. 

Remember that you have a responsibility to raise your child to be a productive person. Take your personal feelings away from how you feel about the other parent and concentrate on how you wish your child will react later in life.  Your child is going to learn from your actions and reactions. Please do not alienate yourself in this process.  You may have to bite your tongue; you may have to bite it off. "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

Your child may spend approximately 18 years with you, but may spend the next 60+ years seeking a truth.

Parental Alienation Awareness Day April 25, 2012 Events


2012 Parental Alienation Awareness Day Events.
Alberta, Canada

Evening with Parental Alienation
6:00 pm
Parkland Mall, Gateway Parent Link Centre 4747 67 Red Deer, alberta, Canada
contact: Tara, drkathleenreayevents@shaw.ca
Join us for an evening with Parental Alienation Expert Dr. Kathleen Reay! Thursday May 3, 6:00-8:00pm $25 prepaid in advance www.parentalalienationhelp.org/store -or $35 at the door (5:30 pm) This lecture followed by Q& A will provide knowledge, understanding, real-life examples & powerful strategies to deal with the ramifications of PA or PAS. Alienated parents, loved ones, clinicians, lawyers & criminal justice personnel are invited to join. Dr. Kathleen M. Reay, a clinician, researcher, and author of the 341 page book called Toxic Divorce: a Workbook for Alienated Parents is a leading expert on PA/PAS. Dr. Reay was a keynote speaker at the 2011 Canadian Symposium for Parental Alienation Syndrome in Montreal, Quebec. She is also the Founder and Director of the International Institute for Parental Alienation Studies (IIPAS), an exceptional research institute and online learning program for alienated parents, extended family members, and professionals. See http:www.iipas.org for more information. She also receives many inquiries regarding her availability as a consultant, evaluator, trial consultant and expert witness in matters relating to child custody, trauma, estrangement, parental alienation and parental alienation syndrome. Would You Like to Sponsor a Basic, Advanced or Customized Training Program in Your Area? For all inquiries, please email drkathleenreayevents@shaw.ca Additionally, Dr. Reay will be offering online courses and webinars in 2012. To keep up-to-date on whats happening, please feel free to subscribe to our free newsletter. Click on http://parentalalienationhelp.org/newsletter

EFFECTIVE CLINICAL ASSESSMENT & THERAPEUTIC INTERVENTIONS FOR ALIENATED CHILDREN & THEIR FAMILY MEMBERS
 9 a.m.
Quality Inn North Hill, Rotary Room, 7150 50th Ave Red Deer, Alberta, Canada
contact: Tara, drkathleenreayevents@shaw.ca
This is a two (2)full day advanced training program for mental health professionals. Presenter: Dr. Kathleen M. Reay, Ph.D., D.A.A.E.T.S., a Diplomate of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, an experienced licensed psychotherapist, researcher, public speaker, child custody evaluator and litigation-related consultant to parents, attorneys and the courts as an expert on parental alienation and parental alienation syndrome. Dr. Reay is also the author of Toxic Divorce: A Workbook for Alienated Parents. Who Should Attend? Mental health professionals in private practice or agency settings who have a minimum Masters level degree in counselling, clinical psychology, social work, or a similar social science and must be licensed to practice in a state/province. There are few therapists that have had advanced training in how to handle these cases and the need is great. If you are a mental health professional and this is a specialty that interests you, you could make a powerful contribution to the distressed families that are affected by a serious dysfunction that far too many divorcing parents and their children experience. Upon successful completion, participants can optionally purchase a customized Certificate of Completion and have his/her name placed on the referral database at the International Institute for Parental Alienation Studies (IIPAS) for $20.00 CDN (includes tax and S&H). The IIPAS receives numerous inquiries for referrals to professionals who are trained in proper assessment, diagnosis and treatment for PA/PAS throughout the US and Canada. For more information on the agenda,learning objectives, travel info, fees, and how to register for this program, please click on http://parentalalienationhelp.org/events Would you and/or your organization like to sponsor Dr. Kathleen M. Reay to provide a workshop for alienated parents, mental health professionals or legal professionals? Please submit your inquiry to the above-noted email address.
  
2012 Parental Alienation Awareness Day Events
British Columbia, Canada             

Honoring Parental Alienation Awareness Day
Tuesday, April 24, 2012 9 a.m. - 1
Shaw TV Studios: Studio 4 Vancouver,, British Columbia, Canada
contact: Dr. Kathleen M. Reay, drkathleenreay@gmail.com
Dr. Kathleen M. Reay, a leading Canadian expert on PA/PAS will be a live guest on Studio 4 http://studio4.ca from 9 a.m. - 10 a.m. PDST. The host of this show is Fanny Kiefer, a highly respected Canadian journalist and talk show host who has interviewed the political elite, famous world-renowned authors, global influences, visionaries, artists, creators and unconventional characters. Dr. Reay will be providing a significant amount of up-to-date information on the differences between irrational alienation and rational alienation.

In Celebration of the 7th Annual Parental Alienation Awareness Day
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 8:15 a.m.
City TV Studios - Breakfast TV Show Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
contact: Dr. Kathleen M. Reay, drkathleenreay@gmail.com
Dr. Kathleen M. Reay will be a live guest on a highly-rated live morning TV show called Breakfast TV to help spread public awareness about PA/PAS. Please see more info on http://www.btvancouver.ca
Evening Lecture & Q & A on Current Parental Alienation Issues
 6:00 p.m.
Simon Fraser University, Surrey Campus, Room 5360, Surrey (suburb of Vancouver), British Columbia, Canada
contact: Tara, drkathleenreayevents@shaw.ca
Join us for an evening with Parental Alienation Expert Dr. Kathleen Reay on Friday,May 11th, 2012. Doors open at 5:30 p.m. $25 prepaid in advance www.parentalalienationhelp.org/store or $35 at the door. This lecture followed by Q& A will provide knowledge, understanding, real-life examples & some powerful strategies to deal with the ramifications of PA or PAS. Alienated parents, loved ones, clinicians, lawyers & criminal justice personnel are invited to join. Dr. Kathleen M. Reay, a clinician, researcher, and author of the 341 page book called Toxic Divorce: a Workbook for Alienated Parents is a leading expert on PA/PAS. Dr. Reay was a keynote speaker at the 2011 Canadian Symposium for Parental Alienation Syndrome in Montreal, Quebec. She is also the Founder and Director of the International Institute for Parental Alienation Studies (IIPAS), an exceptional research institute and online learning program for alienated parents, extended family members, and professionals. See http:www.iipas.org for more information. She also receives many inquiries regarding her availability as a consultant, evaluator, trial consultant and expert witness in matters relating to child custody, trauma, estrangement, parental alienation and parental alienation syndrome. Would You Like to Sponsor a Basic, Advanced or Customized Training Program in Your Area? For all inquiries, please email drkathleenreayevents@shaw.ca Additionally, Dr. Reay will be offering online courses and webinars in 2012. To keep up-to-date on whats happening, please feel free to subscribe to our free newsletter. Click on http://parentalalienationhelp.org/newsletter

Effective Clinical Assessment & Therapeutic Interventions for Alienated Children & Their Family Members
 Doors open
Simon Fraser University, Surrey Campus, Room #5360 Surrey (a suburb of Vancouver), British Columbia, Canada
contact: Tara, drkathleenreayevents@shaw.ca
2 Full Day Advanced Workshops for Mental Health Professionals: Presenter: Dr. Kathleen M. Reay, Ph.D., D.A.A.E.T.S., a Diplomate of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, an experienced licensed psychotherapist, researcher, public speaker, child custody evaluator and litigation-related consultant to parents, attorneys and the courts as an expert on parental alienation and parental alienation syndrome. Dr. Reay is also the author of Toxic Divorce: A Workbook for Alienated Parents. This is a 2 full day advanced course for mental health professionals who have a minimum Masters level degree in counselling, clinical psychology, social work, or a similar social science and must be licensed to practice in a state/province. There are few therapists that have had advanced training in how to handle these cases and the need is great. If you are a mental health professional and this is a specialty that interests you, you could make a powerful contribution to the distressed families that are affected by a serious dysfunction that far too many divorcing parents and their children experience. Upon successful completion, participants can optionally purchase a customized Certificate of Completion and have his/her name placed on the referral database at the International Institute for Parental Alienation Studies (IIPAS) for $20.00 CDN (includes tax and S&H). The IIPAS receives numerous inquiries for referrals to professionals who are trained in proper assessment, diagnosis and treatment for PA/PAS throughout the US and Canada. Who Should Attend? For more information on the agenda,learning objectives, travel info, fees, and how to register for this program, please click on http://parentalalienationhelp.org/events Would you and/or your organization like to sponsor Dr. Kathleen M. Reay to provide a workshop for alienated parents, mental health professionals or legal professionals? Please submit your inquiry to Tara, Marketing Director at drkathleenreayev

2012 Parental Alienation Awareness Day Events
Ontario, Canada

2012 PAAD & BUbbles of Love Day Event
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:45am
Nathan Phillip Square Toronto, Ontario, Canada
contact: Sarvy Emo, sarvy@paawareness.org
Join us for the 3rd annual Bubbles of Love Day event in honour of the 6th annual Parental Alienation Awareness Day, celebrated globally in over 22 countries!
Bubbles will be provided. Family fun event. Rain or shine.
CEPC - Barrie - Courthouse Public Rally - Bubbles of Love - "Flash Mob"
 9:30 AM
Barrie Courthouse - 114 Worsley Street Barrie, Ontario, Canada
contact: Paulette, completewellness@sympatico.ca
Given that seventy five to eighty percent of parental alienation and hostile aggressive parenting cases occur in the context of divorce or separation and our court system facilitates such family devastation; I am organizing a Barrie Courthouse Public Rally in the morning from 9:30 to 11:00 during which time we will be gathering signatures for a Government Bill for Equal\Shared Parenting, followed by a Kempentfelt playground "Flash Mob" @ 12 noon for "Bubbles of Love"; on this years 7th Annual, Parental Alienation Awareness Day - April 25th, 2012. The purpose of doing the courthouse rally is to demonstrate that we the people mean business and that our "Status Quo" has to go! The bubbles of love demonstrates just how fragile the love that a child has for both parents during divorce or separation is, and how if you attempt to contain that love, the bubble will break and so will that child's love for one of their parents which is why we should not contain the bubbles, nor should we contain a child's love for both mom and dad - and what could be more peaceful then blowing soap bubbles?!

Bubbles Of Love Day
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 10:00
130 King St London, Ont, Canada
contact: Jim Ellis, jrellis.post@gmail.com
Bubbles Of Love Day April 25 2012 Join us for our 2nd annual event taking place at the COVENT GARDEN MARKET at 130 King St London Ontario. This year should prove bigger and better than last years.So tell your friends and come on out and enjoy the fun.

2012 Parental Alienation Awareness Day Events
Northwest Territories, Canada

Paad bubbles of love
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 all day
City of Yellowknife City of Yellowknife, Northwest Territories, Canada
contact: Mark Bogan, bogan98@yahoo.com
Will be handing out 100 copies of Proclamation from His Worship Mayor Gordon Van Tighem to Municipal, Territorial and Federal task force teams as well as several health professionals, lawyers, judges and politicians.


2012 Parental Alienation Awareness Day Events
Europe

PA Awareness Day Labyrint Three state point (NL-BE-D)
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 10.00
Viergrenzenweg, 6291 BM Vaals Netherlands, Limburg,
contact: Hetty Adams, Elimineeer.PAS@gmail.com

Jan 4, 2012. info: elimineer.PAS@gmail.com
Een groep ouders (NL-BE) geconfronteerd met PA is aan het onderzoeken of het mogelijk is om op 25 april een bijeenkomst te organiseren bij het drielandenpunt te Vaals. Wie organiseert er mee?
Eine Gruppe von Eltern (NL-BE) PA ist zu untersuchen, ob es mglich ist, ein Treffen bis 25 April im vorliegenden drei Lnder Punkt zu organisieren. Wer es organisiert?
A group of parents (NL-BE) facing PA is to investigate whether it is possible to organise a meeting to 25 april in the three countries point to Vaals. Who organized there?

Parliament Helsinki, , Finland
contact: , pekka.pere@helsinki.fi

The book Divorce Poison by Richard Warshak is given to members of the parliament.


Bubbles of Love-Event / Parental Alienation Awareness Day
Saturday, April 21, 2012 14:00
Hauptwache Frankfurt on the Main, Hessen, Gemany
contact: Thilo Muehlberger, shg@pas-rhein-main.de
Bubbles of Love-Campaign. We will be handing out bubbles and blowing blowing bubbles for 1 to 2 hours. Flyers and handouts about Parental Alienation. Everyone is welcome! Event is organized by support group Selbsthilfegruppe PAS Rhein/Main http://www.pas-rhein-main.de


Articles about PA and its negative effects

Whole world , , Poland
contact: , Parental Alienation Awareness Committee,kpor@goog
We invite you to read articles about Parental Alienation and its negative effects for children, parents and society on our website: www.kpor.pl They are Polish written, but they can be easily translated into other languages, when you use Internet browser tools. Because of lack at primary PA conception and strong and effective propaganda attacks against PA conception and its author we do not recommend to promote activity against PA to do not damage effects of your efforts on Parental Alienation Awareness Day.


Research on Parental Alienation in Poland

Whole country, , Poland
contact: Maciej Wojewdka, kpor@googlegroups.com
I invite you to read about my research on Parental Alienation and its negative effects in Poland on the website (Polish): https://sites.google.com/site/maciejwojewodka/home/alienacja-rodzicielska-w-polsce---przyklady-i-pytania-badania-wstepne My research have been begun under auspices of European Creativity and Innovation Year 2009 in Poland. European Creativity and Innovation Year was established by European Parliament according to application by European Commission.


Articles about PA and its negative effects

Whole world , , Poland
contact: Parental Alienation Awareness Committee, kpor@googlesgroup.com
We invite you to read articles about Parental Alienation and its negative effects for children, parents and society on our website: www.kpor.pl They are Polish written, but they can be easily translated into other languages, when you use Internet browser tools. Because of lack at primary PAS conception and strong and effective propaganda attacks against PAS conception and its author we do not recommend to promote activity against PAS to do not damage effects of your efforts on Parental Alienation Awareness Day.


Lanamento de bales
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 15h
Lisbon Lisbon, , Portugal
contact: igualdadeparental@gmail.com, igualdadeparental@gmail.com

Bubbles of Love, Sweden
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:30 AM
Domus entrance Kristianstad, , Sweden
contact: Hans-Inge Hansson, hans-inge@pappa-barn-kristianstad.se
For the third year Pappa-Barn Kristianstad will arrange a Bubbles of Love event in Kristianstad, Sweden. Bring the kids, family and friends and show that children's best interests must come first. Bubbles will be blown starting at noon to show that just like bubbles, LOVE cannot and should not be contained.



2012 Parental Alienation Awareness Day Events
USA

Parental Alienation Awareness Day/Bubbles of Love Day - Hill Country Galleria (Amphitheater)
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11am
12700 Hill Country Blvd. Austin (Bee Caves), TX, USA
contact: Natasha Lessard-Alvarado, pasinaustin@gmail.com
Parental Alienation Awareness Day - Bubbles of Love in Austin on April 25th has their official location at Hill Country Galleria (Amphitheater) 12700 Hill Country Blvd. Bee Cave, TX 78738 http://www.facebook.com/pages/Parental-Alienation-Awareness-in-Austin/374069599277066?ref=tn_tnmn


Parental Alienation awareness rally.
Friday, January 27, 2012 11am
Pennsylvania State Capitol Building, N 3rd Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, USA
contact: Jesse A Baker, proepilot@gmail.com
Parental Alienation awareness rally. meet in the dome at 11am sharp.. Phone number for directions (717) 787-5532 Talk with state reps for support of April being designated as Parental Alienation month. Lets help educate the law makers on the devastating effects that parental alienation has on our children. So come out and show your support for children suffering this mental and emotional abuse caused by parental alienation. PS Lets make 2012 a year of action not just talk. Our children need us ��


Bubbles of LOVE Day DFW!
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:00am
1221 E Southlake Blvd Southlake, Texas, USA
contact: Wendy Archer, warcher@paawareness.org
Bubbles of LOVE Day DFW 2011 was the biggest Parental Alienation Awareness Day/Bubbles of LOVE Day event in the 6 year history of the event. Ever anywhere in the WORLD!!! Bubbles of LOVE Day DFW featured 2 locations, more than 200 attendees, Dr. Richard Warshak, and had the support of 12 mayors and cities in DFW. 2012 will be even bigger and even more fun. Event starts at 11:00. Bubble blowing is at 12:00. Bubbles will be provided. Bubbles of LOVE Day DFW is family and pet friendly. Conveniently located in Central Park in the Shops of Southlake, all you have to do is show up and blow bubbles! Please contact Wendy Archer for media coverage, sponsorship opportunities and volunteer opportunities.


Annual Parental Alienation Awareness/ Bubbles of Love Day Event
Saturday, April 28, 2012 11am
Se 60th(crosstreet is Duke) in Brentwood Park. Portland, OR, USA
contact: Todd Maudlin, toddmaudlin@yahoo.com
2nd Annual Parental Alienation Awareness/ Bubbles of Love Day event Saturday April 28th 2012 @ Se 60th(crosstreet is Duke) in Brentwood Park. 11am-2:00 Come blow bubbles sharply at noon to spread love to kids around the world that are separated from their loving parent due to parental alienation. The bubble is a symbol of love and how it should take us higher and should not be contained. Free literature on pa, pa resources and info, free "kids need both parents" stickers, and lots of bubble blowing fun! Life size panda for the kids! Few snacks. Bring a picture of you and your child together last.


Bubbles of love campaign
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 12:00pm
3001 Knoxville Center Mall Knoxville, TN, USA
contact: Brenda Adkins, bgbenoit@yahoo.com
To bring awareness to the public and press!


Springfield Second Annual Bubbles Of Love Day
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:30 am
2005 West Lawrence Avenue Springfield, Illinois, USA
contact: Ahna Gooch, ahna_1969@yahoo.com
This will be the second time we have had this event in Springfield. Planning a bigger event this year than last. The bubbles represent Love, how love takes us all higher, and how just like bubbles, love cannot and should not be contained. Please come out and help us Blow Bubbles to show the Children that is alright to love both parents.


Parental Alienation Awareness Day and End Child Abuse
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11 am
State House in Montgomery Montgomery, Alabama, USA
contact: , info@alfra.org
Parental Alienation awareness day. We're meeting at the Steps of the State House in Montgomery, Alabama at 11am sharp. Talk with state reps for support of April 25th being designated as Parental Alienation Awareness Day. Lets help educate the law makers and general public on the devastating effects that parental alienation has on our children. Were inviting all churches, organizations, school, daycares, businesses, neighborhoods in our cities and surround communities to Blow soap bubbles representing LOVE on April 25th.


Loganville, Georgia 1st Annual Bubbles of Love Day
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:45am
Loganville Toddler Park - 4385 Pecan Street Loganville, Georgia, USA
contact: Hilary Crowe/Angie Kadow, georgiapaawareness@gmail.com
Georgians everywhere are invited to the 1st Annual Bubbles of Love Day in Loganville, Georgia! We will be blowing bubbles at the Loganville Toddler Park behind City Hall on Pecan Street in downtown Loganville, Georgia. Feel free to bring kids, friends, anybody that wants to support honoring alienated children everywhere in a fun, supportive way!


N.E. Wisconsin's Bubbles of Love Event
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:30am
N1788 Lily of the Valley Dr Greenville, WI, USA
contact: Stacy Spaulding, sspaulding123@new.rr.com
Love & Laughter Will Come Together for N.E. Wisconsin's 1st Annual Bubbles of Love Event! We will be there starting at 11:30am with BUBBLES at NOON! Please come & share in this Very Special Event & Help Us Blow Bubbles of Love to Create Awareness about Parental Alienation! Education & Awareness = Prevention! Bubbles provided as we will only be using "green" bubble products!


Bubbles of Love
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11am
Coeur D Alene City Park Coeur D Alene, Idaho, USA
contact: Monica Preciado, NWParentalAA@gmail.com


Central Valley Parental Alienation Awareness
Saturday, April 21, 2012 5 pm
5281 N. McCall fresno/clovis, ca, USA
contact: marylou, marylou.vv@gmail.com
a casual dinner with an information table/booth and victims of parental alienation will speak. approaching mayors in our city and surrounding cities for PAA proclamations.


Parental Alienation Awareness Day Candlelight Vigil
 6:00 PM-8:
South Steps State Capitol 1900 Kanawha Blvd East Charleston, WV, USA
contact: Kelly Rice, c4aj@aim.com
Sponsored by Center for Family and Justice Inc


Bubbles of Love Day!!!
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 10:00 am
Balboa Park-Pepper Grove Park San Diego, California, USA
contact: Liza Alvarado, bubblesoflovedaysd@gmail.com
Mayor Jerry Sanders has proclaimed April 25, 2012 as Parental Alienation Awareness Day in San Diego! Please join me, and many others, in raising awareness of this form of emotional child abuse among families on April, 25th, 2012 @ noon in Pepper Grove Park, within Balboa Park, by blowing bubbles to represent love for the children through our Bubbles of Love Event! Just like bubbles, love should flow and float freely to the children, by BOTH parents. All children deserve to give and receive love by BOTH parents. All those involved with children and families; the family courts, lawyers, judges, social workers, mental health workers, health care workers, teachers, and day care workers, need to be aware of this ongoing problem affecting innocent children everyday. This is a family friendly and pet friendly event! Bubbles will be provided! We will be spreading awareness starting at 10 am and will be blowing bubbles at exactly 12 pm. Hope to see you there! Please contact me if you are interested in donating or volunteering for this event.


Parental Alienation Awareness/ Bubbles of Love Day Rally
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 12:00 PM
In Front of The Statehouse, 125 West State St. Trenton, NJ, USA
contact: www.pasanj.org, parentalalienationnj@gmail.com
Join Us as We Gather to Bring Attention To Parental Alienation. Be with us as we Recognize Disrupted Families. Come to Learn More About What You Can Do To Prevent or Stop Parental Alienation


Orlando Parental alienation awareness and bubbles of love day!
 1130 am
to be announced Orlando, Florida, USA
contact: Charles Hamilton, dakotaspappa@aol.com
We curently need people and a location! please contact me if you are in the area and are interested! Mayor Dyer sighned a Proclamation!! awesome for Orlando Thank you Mayor Dyer!


Bubbles of Love Carrollton, GA
Saturday, April 28, 2012 8am
Tanner Beach State Park Carrollton, GA, USA
contact: , mothertoanother@gmail.com
Bubbles of Love for the "lost" children of PA. Join us on Tanner Beach to blow bubbles and raise awareness of this under recognized form of child abuse and emotional assualt! We hope to see you there!
Bubbles of Love
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 NOON
Common Ground Park Lakeland, Florida, USA
contact: Danica Joan Fields, danica@paawareness.org
This is the first scheduled event for parental alienation awareness in the Central Florida area. We are asking you to participate wherever you are if you are unable to meet up at Common Ground Park. Contact us to gather enough bubbles and educational materials for your participants and spectators. At noon go to a public place and blow bubbles. Start a conversation with those around you about how important it is for children to have both parents in their lives


Bubbles of Love Roopville, GA
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 7:00 pm
Downtown Roopville, GA, USA
contact: Birthrights4Equality, birthrights4equality@yahoo.com
This is my family along with other alienated parents i know from our small town we r going to blow bubbles in the wind for our "lost" children! please join us!


Bubbles for love and lighting of candles
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 2 PM
29 North Charlottesville, VA, USA
contact: Melanie, acmqueens3@gmail.com
Bubbles for love. Each bubble is a child being alienated. Alienation is abuse on our children. At dusk we will light a candle for the children we know that are being abused by alienation. Our goal is to also educate as many people as we can.


Bubbles of Love
Saturday, April 28, 2012 11:00
Ora Mae Horn Park Marana, Arizona, USA
contact: Saralee Burkett, saraleeburkett@yahoo.com


bubbles of love day / parental alienation awareness day
 10:00 am
The Auburn Eagles 705 M St SE Auburn, Wa, USA
contact: Heather Hartzell, ladyofthelandfill@yahoo.com
The Bubble man will be performong from 10:30 to 11:30. we will be handing out bubbles and blowing bubbles at noon for 10 minutes. Everyone is welcome


The Toby Center presents Parental Alienation Awareness Day
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 12pm
1100 S. Federal Highway, Suite 3 Boynton Beach, FL, USA
contact: Samira Fouladi, sfouladi88@gmail.com
On Wednesday April 25th, The Toby Center in conjunction with the Chamber of Commerce for Palm Beach County, will hold the official ribbon cutting ceremony as well as acknowledge the 7th annual Parental Alienation Awareness Day. The festivities will take place at The Toby Center Offices from 12-2pm and admission is free and open to the public. Food and refreshments will be provided.

Parental Alienation Awareness Rally/ Bubbles of Love Day
Wednesday, April 25, 2012 12:00pm
125 West State Street, in front of the Statehouse Trenton, NJ, USA
contact: Anna Tivade, parentalalienationnj@gmail.com
WHO: YOU! We can't make this without YOU! WHAT: Rally for International Parental Alienation Awareness Day/ Bubbles of Love Day WHEN: Wednesday, April 25, 2012, 12:00pm-2:00pm WHERE: In front of the Statehouse, 125 West State Street, Trenton, NJ WHY: To increase Parental Alienation Awareness to the general public, the media, and our legislators. To dedicate this day for every individual that has been hurt by Parental Alienation. ***Parental Alienation Support & Advocacy NJ, ***WWW.PASANJ.ORG


A Free Workshop With Dr. Amy Baker
Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:00 PM
111 West 2nd Street Moorestown, NJ, USA
contact: Moorestown Library,

WHAT HAPPENS TO CHILDREN WHEN ONE PARENT TURNS THEM AGAINST THE OTHER? A FREE WORKSHOP FOR: PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS, EDUCATORS, GUIDANCE COUNSELORS, HEALTH PROFESSIONALS, PSYCHOLOGISTS, THERAPISTS, SOCIAL WORKERS, LEGISLATORS, LAWYERS, AND JUDGES The Moorestown Library presents a FREE workshop by one of the foremost authorities on parental alienation syndrome (PAS), a potentially devastating phenomenon that you don��t want to affect your children. Participants in this workshop will: �� Learn the 8 signs and symptoms of PAS �� Learn about the strategies that one parent may use to turn the children against the other parent V some of the same strategies used by cult leaders! �� Discover more than 10 triggers that can lead an adult to realize that he or she was a child victim of alienation by a parent �� Understand why it is important for everyone to learn about this problem so that we can prevent its progression and protect the parent-child bond �� Hear an expert dispel myths about PAS V such as that it only happens to fathers and it only occurs in divorces Please join Dr. Amy J.L. Baker, Director of Research at the New York Foundling Fontana Center for Child Protection, and a developmental psychologist with a Ph.D. from Columbia University, as she speaks on this important topic. Dr. Baker has conducted rigorous parent-child research for nearly 20 years, published numerous journal articles, and helped hundreds. Dr. Baker is the author of ADULT CHILDREN OF PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME: BREAKING THE TIES THAT BIND (W.W. Norton & Co., 2007) and the children��s book entitled, I DON��T WANT TO CHOOSE. She has been featured on TV and radio and is dedicated to helping to educate and empower people to address this difficult issue. For more information, visit Dr. Baker��s website at www.amyjlbaker.com. WORKSHOP DATE: Thursday, April 26, 2012 TIME: 7:00 to 9:00 p.m. LOCATION: Moorestown Library 11