Friday, December 26, 2008

Christmas without my son

What was supposed to be a holly jolly time filled with lots of family, food, music and festivities was a very quiet time for me. I did celebrate with someone I love, but my son was missing.

It has been a difficult time for me since Thanksgiving, which seems to mark the start of the holiday season. I did not want to put up a Christmas tree nor decorate the home. I finally relented and did some basic decorating. I thought perhaps that would help me get into the spirit of Christmas. It really did not help. I now have a tree with some unwrapped gifts under it and a stocking hanging on the mantle that is filled. I still am holding out hope that maybe God will answer my prayer and my son will come home for Christmas. If not, I will place the gifts in his room and they will sit there until the day he decides to come home.

For many parents that are separated from their children because of parental alienation, their Christmas can also be a very difficult time. It is difficult being with other family members and watching their children. It brings back memories of the better times and it also reminds them of what they are missing. I know the solitude is difficult.

My wish for the New Year is that no other child will never be made to "hate" their parent, will never have to choose one parent over the other and will never feel sad because they cannot spend time with both parents. The laws can change and must change.

Parental Alienation is Abuse! Stop the ABUSE!


  1. Hello Alienated mom, I am an alienated dad and my heart goes out to you. No one seems to understand the pain at this time of year. I am so glad when its over. I did not put up a tree or decorate, this is the third year of not "doing" Christmas. I pray that your son will come back to you some day as I pray my daughter will come back to me. PA is real child abuse and no one should be allowed to do this to kids.

  2. I thought of you often yesterday and hoped that your son would come to see you. I will continue to pray that he "comes around" and returns to YOU, the "real and sincere" parent.

  3. Hello Alienated Dad and Anonymous "friend",

    Thank you for your comments!

    I am so "happy" that all this holiday stuff is over. I agree, it is very difficult at this time of year. I am so glad it is over and I do not have to pretend I am happy. Parental alienation is abuse, real abuse and it happens everyday to a child somewhere. This has to change. Alienated Dad, I hope that your daughter will come back and will keep you in my prayers.
    2009 has to be the time for changes.

    Alienated Mom

  4. I have recently come across PA I have been living it for 8 yrs now.I just thought it was me,I did not know a name for it,and until now thought I was the only one on earth going through this hideous pain. My heart goes out to each and every person that is going through this trauma!I can certainly relate to christmas this year as well as years past.I believe that in my situation the correct actions are being taken and I hope beyond hope that finally after 8 yrs of torture that it will come to an end.My largest enemy was truth. My family was dragged through the mud,my friends were told of myself being a horrible parent(supported by court rulings) I lost all hope, at times even to live.Please you are not alone,my belief that cosmic truth, a higher power, however you see faith, needs to carry all of you. If you let "them" destroy us then they win.