Sunday, January 18, 2009

Parental Alienation, Domestic Violence and Terrorism, is there a common link?

Hopefully, this entry today will make some sense and make one think as well. Perhaps, you can see the relation between parental alienation and domestic violence, but you may wonder where terrorism falls into this analogy. Previously I posted this: Domestic Violence and Parental Alienation...are the two related?

You may see a correlation between domestic violence and parental alienation, but may be wondering where I am going with the terrorism angle. Most likely the first thing that comes to mind are the terrorist acts that are committed across the globe. Those certainly are not related to parental alienation and domestic violence. If one looks up the definition of terrorism, you would find Terrorism is "the systematic use of terror especially as a means of coercion." Whereas terror can be defined as - the use of extreme fear in order to coerce people. The definition of domestic violence can be defined as "It's a chronic abuse of power. The abuser tortures and controls the victim by calculated threats, intimidation, and physical violence. Actual physical violence is often the end result of months or years of intimidation and control." One definition of alienation is listed as: "estrange: arouse hostility or indifference in where there had formerly been love, affection, or friendliness" . The common theme seems to be coercion, which can be defined as: the act of compelling by force of authority, using force to cause something to occur, and the practice of compelling a person or manipulating them to behave in an involuntary way (whether through action or inaction) by use of threats, intimidation or some other form of pressure or force" .

While the recent and past global terrorist attacks seem a far fetched analogy to my post, the tactics employed by abusers in domestic violence and parental alienation are one in the same as terrorists. A use of terror to coerce their subject or subjects into submission. If this does not define abuse, then what does?

Parental alienation is abuse! Stop the abuse!


  1. Wow, I completely agree. Parental alienation is the worst form of domestic violence. The courts are so uneducated that they perpetuate the abuse.

  2. Correct! For some reason, the "system" does not think that denying a child access to a parent is worthy of further court actions.

    For some reason there is a clause in these "best interest of the child" that states that a CHILD, A MINOR, has some say in where they live. Although , I agree children should have some say, there should be some governing body that looks at the so called reasons. Tell me what child what not agree to living in a place where they can get everything they wish for, virtually no discipline for anything and to be able to call the shots as they see perpetuated by the alienating adult?

    My son thought it was cool to attend a school where he did not have to study, where you could bring a coca-cola into the classroom, where he could pick easy classes just to graduate according to the state's standards, which are set very low. He got a vehicle, a large screen television for his room, and IPOD, upgraded to the newest cell phones all the time, etc. Tell me what child would not want this?

    See the problem is they ask these children where do they want to live. Are you going to pick a place where rules are enforced and work for advancement is encouraged, or are you going to pick where it is handed to you? Unfortunately, most will pick where they can get something for nothing and that is where the courts fail.

    We are creating a society that does not want to work for things and the system, thinks this is alright.

    The courts think that only domestic abuse occurs between husband and wife and fail to see the obvious that children suffer the loss of a parent.

    Alienating parents use every tactic they can to "win" acceptance. They are nothing more than the continuation of the abuse. Until this abuse stops and it is recognized, it will continue.